Here’s another way of asking this question from the book of Amos: “How can two people get anywhere together without first agreeing on some basic things about the trip?”
It’s a rhetorical question. The obvious answer is, “They can’t.” Two people who are not in agreement simply can’t journey together—not peacefully anyway. Their journey will be a constant battle with very little forward progress. This is especially true of the longest two-person journey in life—marriage.
Every year, go on a vision retreat. Take a three- or four-day trip to get away and spend time praying and talking together about every area of your lives—children, finances, schedules, romance, spirituality, friends, extended family, etc. After spending the mornings praying and talking, fill your afternoons and evenings with fun and romance.
A vision retreat helps you see the big picture of your marriage and what it’s all about. The truth is, your life is about something bigger than yourself. You were created by a great God to do something bigger and beyond “you.” Finding God’s purpose for your life together is one of the key foundations of peace and fulfillment in marriage.
Here are three things that a vision retreat will help you accomplish:
1. Discover the God-given purpose for your marriage.
2. Come to an agreement about key issues of your life together.
3. Draw closer together and form a powerful vision for your family’s future.
(Excerpts from One: A Marriage Devotional by Jimmy Evans)